“Stop worrying so much. I don’t remember any of the moments in my life where I worried. Raise the bar higher. Nothing is a failure; it’s just not supposed to work out.”
In addition, she found time to mention: “Eat something green every day. Do not pick your nose in public. How about we just go get a tissue? When someone who cares about you, hugs you, hug them back. If someone doesn’t want to play with you, it’s O.K. Not everybody is going to love us.
And last but not least, go find your joy. It’s what you’re going to remember in the end. It’s not the worry, it’s not the what-ifs. It’s the joy that stays with you. And I want to thank you for the joy that Warren Easton brings me every day.”
”—Sandra Bullock, Monday morning in a New Orleans–area public high school, where she surprised students during their graduation ceremony with a touching speech.
If you need someone — how they make you feel, what they do for you, how they keep you whole — then you don’t actually love them, you just love the role they play in your life. The further you can push away from that need, the closer you’ll get to loving the human.
(This is an idea from Joko Beck’s Everyday Zen, which I *highly highly highly* recommend for anxious and/or ADD types, but this is true for everyone.)